At times I fail to really understand man [generally referring to man as a species and the gender ones that we end up falling in love with]. Everyone expects you to be the one bending rules, taking shots and carrying the blame every day! What exactly do you think we are? Robots? Or better still, slaves? So today I decided to speak on it and here goes;
(Switches face to a warmer, receptive one) Hey dear, welcome to Life with Lu 😉 .
So personally, at most times I tend to give such encounters cold shoulders, overlook the wrong and try to focus on the reasons why I’m really still a friend to such individuals. But just like anyone else, I also have my limits and unlike most people, I will not really come and ‘give you a piece of my mind’ instead I’d rather minimize our memories or better still, avoid creating any. For example, I have one friend who constantly keeps pressing my buttons. Lol, hey don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to paint this person’s reputation black, I’m just introducing a real-life character that represents that one person in our lives who will always push you to the wall and demonically test your faith. Let’s name this character person X. So, person X has tendencies of putting me in situations where saying ‘NO’ would make me seem very inconsiderate, that or its either just my insecurities or some far-fetched kindness but… hear me out. Say I tell person X “I don’t like you having or using my staff without my consent.” Guess what, they’ll still do it or use it knowing very well they can be very apologetic thereafter, who knows whether they’re fake or genuine apologies. While still at it, person X will make it look like that was the only available option while really there were so many more available pathways, but person X chose this specific one because that’s what seemed to benefit them at the moment. So whether its blatant disrespect and disregard for your relationship, or person X is just plain dumb to see the other available options, the choice made was an insult and completely ignorant to what you had asked of them initially.
Now just to add salt to the wound, while these person X’s in our lives expect so much from us, they never have the conscious to actually reciprocate it. They’re however always the first ones to lose their cool when you mistakenly breathe in their direction or even overstep some imaginary boundary they had set up without letting you know. They’re the ones to text you the longest paragraphs telling you how ‘you aint this, you aint that’ ‘your momma aint raise you right’ ‘that’s why you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend’ or whatever their fingers can type best. To quote a random definition from one of my classes “Justice is when you give someone what is owed to them in accordance with their dignity” assuming we all have some dignity, self-respect or some regard for ourselves. While this statement seems to attack person X, lets not act holier than thou and pretend like we haven’t been ‘person X’ ourselves, even if it’s just once a day, a week, a month, or a year maybe? C’mon man, we both know you have! But hey, man is to error right? Unless if you’re person X for 365 days a year, then you really need to make some changes. Anyway, with the limited knowledge and this blessed platform (that keep growing by the day I should say), I just want to put some points out there, for all of us;
- Do what you want reciprocated.
Just because I do not comment or complain about it as often as I should does not mean it does not hurt or offend me as much. Some of us don’t really like having to remind you of the same thing a million and one times, we say it thrice and thereafter you just tarnish the respect we had for you. If you wouldn’t like to be on the receiving end of an action you do, please [for the love of Christ] do not do it.
- Respect goes two ways.
Imma respect you but imma still want to have some of that, if not all of that respect reciprocated. In a family, friendship or squad I’m sure there’s a point in these bonds where you are able to know what exactly your sibling/ friend/ spouse likes and what they do not like. More often than not we try to do things that please them and avoid doing things that annoy them. I believe this is one of the many faces respect wears cause best believe they will also do the same. Do me I do you, get what I’m say’n!
- HUMBLE YOURSELF BIH.
We all equal yuh know… (ha-ha Jokes on you) I know sometimes we can get in our ‘on-top of the world’ moments but try not to exceed your boundaries. Just because I don’t push your buttons does not mean I like it when you push mine.
- Above all, Love your neighbour as you love yourself.
This is the lord’s commandment, orders from waaay above me. So if you won’t care about the above three Lu mentioned, then you should at least do this. For all I know, this entire post could be summarized by this single commandment, but tell me what’s the fun in that 🙂 . So yeah, love your neighbor as you love yourself, simple.
I really hope this speaks to one or two. Sometimes being self-conscious is better, because if you wait to be told you might just wait till thy kingdom come. RECIPROCATE it; the respect, the caution taken when using your things and the loyalty. Be the good karma that you need in the world, coz only then will your good deeds come back to you. With all that said, if you feel you might have failed to reciprocate a good deed and ended up disrespecting someone, do ask for forgiveness. And with that said if you do know me personally, and at some point feel like I’ve been the person X in your life, please forgive me.
That all for today loves. Do not forget to like, subscribe and share…there’s room for more of your friends! Lets keep this conversation going in the comments section below, tell me what you think, lets talk, lets share ideas. Happy June y’all!
Lu ❤ .